Interview by Ayo Abiola for The Naija Person series of I am Nigerian
In this second part of the interview with Ayo Abiola, Patricia Omoqui speaks to the Nigerian youth and the various opportunities that abounds, her job as a life coach and the importance of volunteering to create great ripples of positive change. You can read the Part 1 here, in case you missed it.
What do you consider the greatest opportunities in Nigeria that most Nigerians can tap into?
Nigeria’s people are her greatest resource, particularly the youth. In my free time I offer informal mentoring to hundreds of Nigerian youth. I have a passion for youth development.
Young people are the leaders of the future. All young people need someone to see their value and believe in them. They need reassurance that they count. They need guidance and support to develop character and skills. They need honest, non-judgmental feedback. Youth have creative energy and we need to show them ways to focus this energy for their personal good and for the good of the nation. That’s why I spend time coaching young leaders one-on-one. They often need a sounding board and they are hungry for guidance and warm support as they pursue their dreams.
What are the limitations you see for many Nigerians? If any.
Nigerians I encounter yearn for progress and national change. In Nigeria I see a nation of untapped potential, power and possibility. Many refer to this untapped potential as “problems.” However, anywhere there is a problem, there are solutions ready to be discovered!
The challenge I see is moving from a mindset of blaming others to one of solution-driven thinking.
When people get caught up in a “victim mentality,” they feel helpless and depressed. They may even despair. When this happens, they must focus on survival. They tend to do very little to initiate change. However, when people move to a mentality of personal empowerment, they begin to discuss new possibilities. From this realm of possibility, they can join with others of like-mind and begin to harness the power of their energy, resources and ingenuity to generate positive change.
I find good hearted people both in Nigeria and in America. I find that Americans tend to work together more and trust one another more than Nigerians do. Between Nigerians there seems to be a deep mistrust, a worry of being sabotaged or hurt by their fellow citizen. I choose to look at this as an opportunity to foster a new mindset of collaboration and joining together for a common goal. The more we as Nigerians turn our joint attention toward solutions, the more progress we will see.
How/why did you become a life-coach?
I graduated from Princeton University and went on to play professional basketball in Brazil, England and Sweden. When I moved back to the United States, I developed a successful corporate career with Accenture and Tyco International. I was moving up through the ranks of upper management yet I continually felt a longing inside for something else. After a period of deep soul searching, I discovered my true calling.
In 2007, I ventured out on my own to start Patricia Omoqui Enterprises. The goal of my company is to help individuals and groups actualize their full potential. In this light, my team and I design customized corporate and civil service training programmes and deliver them worldwide. I serve as an executive/life coach for established and emerging leaders, helping them to maximize their effectiveness and impact. I also speak at events and conferences and I write professionally. For four years I had a weekly column in Vanguard Newspaper’s Allure Magazine (Sundays) and most recently I have written for Leadership LeVogue. My articles also appear internationally in industry journals and newspapers. I am also the author of Clarify Your Purpose and Live It, with two new books in the works.
Since you began doing this, what are the interesting things you have discovered?
On a personal note, I am so thankful to wake up every day full of joy because I am living my passion and fulfilling my life purpose. There is nothing that compares to this feeling.
Through my work with clients, I have discovered that we make life more complex than it needs to be because our minds are riddled with fear, self-doubt and limiting beliefs. True change comes from the inside out – as we transform our thinking, we are able to transform our lives.
Your practise looks to be engaging many Nigerians. How have you kept us interested?
We live in a world that allows us to have an impact on others even if we are not living in the same location. The world is truly borderless now that we have the Internet and cell phones. I have been working regularly with Nigerians even though I currently reside in the United States.
My work is growing in Nigeria and worldwide because I maximize technology. I share the ideas I use as a coach through many channels so that God can use my skills for the greatest influence on those who are ready to progress. Social media has connected me to groups in Nigeria where I share weekly inspirational messages. I also use various online chatting tools to mentor young men and women.
I interact with coaching clients worldwide, including Nigerians. All it takes is a phone or access to Skype, and I can support people in a way that allows them to increase their success and personal well-being.
Thanks to technology, I have been able to create inspirational videos and have them aired on TV in Nigeria, Ghana and the United States. These video clips are also available to people worldwide via Youtube . Many Nigerians who saw my clips have stayed in contact with me and a number have become clients.
Technology has also allowed me to produce a daily email list called Food For Thought. I can write it weeks in advance and have it sent out by automation on a daily basis to email inboxes across the world. Many Nigerians receive my daily email list already. (If you are interested in signing up, visit my website www.patriciaomoqui.com and put your email address in the yellow box at the top right side of the home page.)
I write a weekly blog (which you can access from my website) sharing my personal experiences of dealing with life’s challenges in empowering ways. I also offer coaching insights on my Facebook page (connect with me: Patricia Omoqui ThoughtDr) and through Twitter: @patriciaomoqui. It’s amazing to have the ability to respond to questions of people located in the United States, Nigeria, India, Europe, New Zealand—anywhere.
What about volunteering? In what ways can any Nigerian volunteer his/herself to make society better?
Look around you. Do you see the many social challenges Nigeria—and all other nations—are facing? The magnitude of these problems requires that all citizens and institutions commit to make volunteering our way of life. Pitching in and working together is our prime opportunity to create needed change!
I consider myself to be an active agent of transformation. I believe serving others is a calling we all have. If each of us does our little part to make the world better, we can create great ripples of positive change.
My motto is,
I do what I can to improve the world with the resources I have where I am right now.
This simple mindset is revolutionary when hundreds, thousands even millions of people apply it. My heart’s prayer is that more and more Nigerians step forward, find an issue in society that we care about and then work toward a progressive solution to the challenge.
So you do encourage volunteering:
I encourage volunteering and I have done regular volunteer work since I was a teenager.
It is remarkable what happens when we stop worrying about who gets “credit” for work and, instead, collaborate for the greatest progress possible. That’s what people who work together in a spirit of volunteerism do—they team up for the good of society.
Volunteerism is more than “Win-Win”: it is a “Triple-Win” scenario. Let me explain.
Win Number One: Volunteering is a win for the organization you work with. They can accomplish the goals they have for their constituents when the people they serve are helped.
Win Number Two: Volunteering is a win for your community and nation. The efforts of organizations country-wide provide vital services that contribute to the development and sustenance of a nation.
Win Number Three: Volunteering is a major win for the person who volunteers. Not only does it offer a sense of fulfillment, it gives you great professional and personal development while allowing you to gain skills, grow your network and enrich yourself as a person. I love the words of American poet Ralph Waldo Emerson,
"It is one of the most beautiful compensations of this life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself."
Continue to Part 3...